Many adult children have been forced to take the blame and responsibility for things that their PWH did (or didn’t do) unfairly. We’ve been told that it’s our fault that things are the way they are. Sometimes this is clearly spoken, other times it is inferred. Although as children we didn’t have a choice or say in these things, once we begin to recognize that things aren’t right, we are responsible for what we continue to allow to happen in our relationships and lives. This is especially true in our relationships with our PWH. Setting boundaries is foreign to us! We weren’t allowed to do this growing up. So where do we begin? Whose fault is it? How are we going to start setting boundaries? How will we know if a boundary is right for us?

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